I love all the ideas out there about how to be an amazing parent. It’s hard not to gobble every one of them up in an effort give my kids a picture-perfect start in life, complete with Pinterest-worthy crafts, clever snacks, and days brimming with lovingly-curated learning activities.
The Edit Button
Since giving birth to twins five years ago, I’ve mostly managed to get over my unrealistic body image expectations. The un-photoshopped photos of supermodels that have been cropping up lately have definitely helped.
You know what I’m talking about, right? The gorgeous birthday party tablescapes, the perfectly organized playrooms, the kids’ crafts that never flop….
It’s too bad real life doesn’t have an Edit button. Wouldn’t it be great if you could just crop out the tantrums and the sticky fingers?
The thing is, you can’t edit real life. You either have to drive yourself crazy striving for perfection, or develop the wisdom to recognize what is good enough. I struggle with this.
If it takes me ten minutes to get to 90% of perfect, it might take me an hour to get to 98%, and who-knows-how-long to achieve 100%.
When your kids see you agonizing over perfection, you are modeling perfectionism to them. So I’ve started trying to be a better model. And that is making me a more perfect mom.
I asked my 8 year old if he knew what perfectionism meant. He told me it was “doing the best job that you can.” What I still need to teach him (and myself) is recognizing when we’ve reached that point.
P.S. I think this post is too short. But I think it’s 98% there (humor me), so I’m done, and taking the kids for a bike ride.